Off you go to college: say YES and trust your gut!

Way to go, you’re heading off to college, so proud of you! It’s one of the best decisions you’ll ever make. The experience will shape your personal identity and set you up for a promising, rewarding life.

As a member of UNH’s Sustainability Advisory Board, I’ve had the pleasure of collaborating with Gen Z for years. I’ve watched presentations, judged their work, heard about their hopes and dreams and learned many new things. Gotta tell ya, I’m blown away by your generation’s brainpower, values and zeal to make a difference. In a time of so much doom and gloom, my hopefulness about the future comes from you.

As you enter one of the most exciting and meaningful stages of your life, put yourself out there. Share yourself with your new community. Say YES much more than you say no.

Remain hopeful, positive and optimistic. The positive energy you release into the universe is felt by others, comes back, makes us whole and gets us – and others – to new places.

A cool thing to to keep in mind is that your many of your core personal values are mirrored by your own generation.  It may not be obvious right away, but you’ll be surrounded by students with similar mindsets and priorities. This includes wanting to make our world a better place. Take the time to shape a purposeful life by helping others and our planet. It will center you, give your life meaning and always enrich you.

While your college years will be an epic experience, you’ll inevitably face your own set of challenges along the way.  Everyone does. Believe in yourself, in the power and promise of who you are. Don’t envy or compare yourself to others. Don’t create false realities. You already have everything you need to succeed.

A key word of advice throughout your life’s journey: trust your gut feel. Listen carefully to the little voice inside, the one we often choose to ignore in favor of facts and rational thought. Our gut feel always speaks the truth.

Once you settle in with your new community of friends, you’ll think about clubs and organizations to join. Good! This is important! Find causes and organizations that feed your soul. For me, my connections with WUNH Radio exposed me to new ways of thinking, new friends, new experiences and got me to new places. Get involved, these experiences will become some of your best college memories.

The following quote from George Bernard Shaw always resonated with me:

People are always blaming circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

In other words, work hard to manifest the life vision you want to create for yourself. Don’t wait for things to magically happen (they hardly ever do). Be a person of action. Work hard, shape your own dreams and work hard to make them a reality,. No one owes you anything. It’s up to you!

As you entertain summer internships (and later on, your first job), do yourself a massive favor and seek out organizations rooted in a Triple Bottom Line philosophy – People, Planet and Profit. You’ll enjoy working for them because they authentically care about their people, health and wellness, communities and environment.  They work hard to do the right thing. When you’re part of an organization defined by head and heart, magic happens.

I always loved the following quote from Mark Twain; it was on my Beaupre & Company office wall for 30+ years: “Thunder is impressive, but it is lightning that does the work.” In other words, it’s not about making lots of noise, it’s about action, walking the talk and ultimately, it’s about the impact you make.

Go forth, seize the day and change the world.  Remember, you already have everything to make this your reality. Have fun, get out there and enjoy some of the best days of your entire life.

Here’s to creating an epic life. Love you, proud of you.

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Meet Paige Balcom

For the past 15 years, I’ve introduced you to a boatload of new experiences, inspiring people, cool social causes and fun places.  As you prepare for new adventures in college, I’d like you to meet the amazing Paige Balcom, a New Hampshire native and UNH grad who’s changing the world.

I met Paige last November at a UNH Sustainability Advisory Board meeting event, the same day she was honored with UNH’s 2023 Social Innovator of the Year award. I was lucky to have her sitting at my table during dinner and was blown away with her smarts, substance and humilty.

Meet Paige Balcom
UNH Alumna Dr. Paige Balcom '16, Named UNH Social Innovator ...
Paige grew up in Londonderry, New Hampshire where she also went to high school.  Her parents taught her about the importance of hard work, the joy of learning and the thrill of exploring.  She played soccer and basketball and enjoyed travel around New England with her Mom and sisters visiting historic sites, museums and state parks.
When she was in middle school, Paige became an “inventioneer”; her LEGO robotics coaches had a big influence. “They taught us about teamwork, community service, helping others and showed us that excellence comes from investing a lot of hard work and practice.” She and her friends invented the “smart wheel” (a safety device to prevent distracted driving) and pitched the idea on Season 4 of the popular ABC TV show “Shark Tank.”  While they didn’t get their financing, she never forgot the experience.
High School  years
Paige faced her own set of challenges during her high school years.  She told me, “It was sometimes difficult to fit in with my peers. I still had lots of great friends and really enjoyed my high school years, but it was sometimes challenging to relate to some groups.
Her Dad urged her to get involved with an exchange program while at Londonderry High to experience another culture.  She took his advice, joining a service trip to Haiti that was
“really eye-opening.”
Paige explained, “That experience in Haiti stands out because it gave me direction. I was starting to think about college and majors.  When I was younger My Dad gave me my first tool set and I’d help him with projects around the house. I enjoyed that and liked the idea of engineering.  My Haiti experience helped me realize how privileged I was to be born in America to a loving family with opportunities. I returned home determined to use engineering as a way to help others get access to basic life necessities.”
Engineers Without Borders & Uganda
Paige’s motivation and experience from high school landed her a full boat UNH Hamel scholarship in mechanical engineering.
She made the most of her UNH years, actively joining her new community, facing new challenges and literally shaping the career she envisioned.  She made it happen by taking risks, saying yes and putting herself out there to increase her knowledge and impact.
New doors opened when she got involved with the UNH Chapter of Engineers Without Borders, a worldwide organization of volunteers helping build a better world.  This lead to several life-changing experiences in Uganda, starting with a two-week visit, later for 10 months as a Fulbright Scholar, and then again as a graduate student.

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Paige worked to address contaminated wells, and bridged her passions for mechanical engineering and social action by designing and building an aquaponic system at ChildVoice (a vocational school for child mothers traumatized by war).
Once again, she faced a new set of challenges, telling me “Adjusting to living in a village and eating mostly boiled cassava and beans and posho was hard at first, but eventually I came to really love the community and simple life. My biggest challenge was when I got typhoid and was really sick for over a month.”
Just Do It – don’t wait, make it happen for yourself
Paige Balcom isn’t the kind of person who feels sorry for herself and stops pushing forward when times get tough. With persistence, belief and relentless drive, she overcame this latest obstacle. She had a vision for what she wanted to achieve and nothing would stand in her way.  UNH played a big role in helping get her there.

“UNH offered me so many opportunities for learning, leadership, and service as well as a fantastic community of friends. Jeanne Sokolowski and the UNH Fellowships Office encouraged me and helped me to apply for lots of fellowships which allowed me to go on multiple international research experiences and receive full scholarship for graduate school.

One of the joys of UNH were the social connections she made.  “The friends I made at UNH were amazing—genuine, kind, and encouraging. We learned a lot and had a lot of fun together. To this day, some of my best friends are my roommates and clubmates from UNH.”

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UNH & sustainability

“They helped me discover my entrepreneurial spirit. When I was a student, UNH’s Entrepreneurship Center, Social Venture Innovation Center and Holloway competition were starting to take off. My friends and I were looking for money for our project so we decided to enter competitions. I really enjoyed it! I loved solving a problem, coming up with innovations no one had tried before, working in a team, and pitching to the judges.”

Barbaros Celikkol, a Mechanical Engineering professor, had a big influence on Paige. “He kind of took me under his wing as my unofficial and then official advisor. He was the first to make me consider going for a PhD and pushed me to do undergraduate research to prepare me for graduate school.

Paige told me UNH’s position as one of America’s top 10 most sustainable universities in America is an important differentiator. “It’s a huge benefit for the state and its students. To be able to learn from the University that pioneered sustainability 25+ years ago, will continue to inspire students to expect and demand sustainability in their workplaces and homes. It’s also helping UNH attract more funding to continue advancing education and programs for sustainability.

UNH Alumna Dr. Paige Balcom '16, Named UNH Social Innovator ...

After graduating from UNH in 2016, Paige earned her PhD in mechanical engineering from the University of California, Berkeley in 2022.

Becoming an entrepreneur in Uganda

During her time in Uganda, Paige was inspired to find a solution to a challenging local problem there — recycling plastic waste.  While polyethylene terephthalate (PET) is the most common plastic for single-use food packaging – including water and soda bottles – PET waste is a big problem across the developing world because many countries lack the infrastructure and technology to recycle this plastic, and it’s often impossible to  is often ship it elsewhere for recycling.

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Paige leveraged her experiences in Uganda later on, co-founding Takataka Plastics with Peter Okwoko in 2020. Okwoko is a Ugandan community organizer and former university lecturer focused on social and environmental efforts. Takataka, which means “waste” in Swahili, provides street-connected Ugandan youth with steady work, two meals a day, and counseling support, enabling vulnerable young people to improve their lives while transforming plastic waste for reuse.

Great optimism for the future

Not surprisingly given her drive and vision, Paige is optimistic about the future of society and planet.

She told me, “I think more people, especially the younger generations, are realizing the negative effects of our individual and societal choices on nature and people’s livelihoods across the world. I think more people are making choices in their personal lives and workplaces to pursue sustainability not just in the near-term and for themselves, but for all people across the world.

“Innovations in technology, green chemistry, and financing schemes are also making sustainability more accessible and affordable. I’m definitely optimistic. I hope we’ll be creating more and more impact for People, Prosperity, and the Planet.”

Paige Balcom on LinkedIn: Reflecting ...

Focus on the whole, be purposeful

Paige explained how being purposeful feeds us and makes us whole.

“Focus on others. Have a mindset of helping your team/community grow more than focusing on yourself. Today’s culture of individualism often highlights individual accomplishments and exceptionalism. That’s a dangerous mindset. Focusing on advancing and promoting yourself brings pressure to perform, stress, and anxiety that you’re not measuring up.

“When we focus on the whole, rather than our part, it’s freeing and joy-giving. Living with a mindset of giving to and helping others, brings happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction. Teams accomplish so much more than individuals. Empowering others and working together will have much farther reaching impact than striving alone.”

Happy 18th birthday Emma!

You’re a brilliant sunrise lighting up the world with your compassion, humor, curiosity, kindness, creativity, musical talent and joie de vivre.

Keep seizing every day and always believe in your magic.

I’m such a lucky Papa DreBeau to have YOU in my life.

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Environmental Emma

So proud of you for organizing and leading a beach clean up at Rye State Park!

You care about the environment and want to make a difference – and you do!  I love how you spread the word and got others involved – a dozen or so friends and relatives (including Madigan and me) filled many bags with waste polluting the seashore.

Some people don’t care, some talk but don’t do anything – you’re one of the brave, caring souls on this planet who authentically care and take ACTION.  You are “walking the talk.”

Way to go Environmental Emma!

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Feminist anthem “You Don’t Own Me” still gives me goosebumps

Lesley Gore – You Don't Own Me Lyrics | Genius Lyrics
I sent you a text the other day about You Don’t Own Me, an important, epic song from the early 1960’s. You played it as you drove the Jetta home after school.

I always loved Lesley Gore, especially this song which peaked at #2 for two weeks on the Billboard Charts in Feb. 1964 It’s catchy as hell, bold and fearless  Still gives me goosebumps 60 years later. A kick ass tune.

Cool fact: she was only17 when she recorded it!

While You Don’t Own Me eventually became a feminist anthem, in 1964 it was a bit shocking and controversial, a progressive song at a time when the pop charts were filled with misogynistic lyrics and traditional representations of women (slaves to men essentially).

Lesley explained to NPR, “At the time, I know I chose it because I liked the strength in the lyric.  But, for me, it was not a song about being a woman. It was about being a person, and what was involved with that. Of course, it got picked up as an anthem for women, which makes me very proud.”

She asserts her independence throughout the song and admonishes her guy time and again:

You don’t own me
Don’t try to change me in any way
You don’t own me
Don’t tie me down ’cause I’d never stay
I don’t tell you what to say
I don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of you
I’m young and I love to be young
I’m free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
To say and do whatever I please
The song has thrived across the decades.  The young Australian singer Grace covered it in 2015 as a hip-hop version with rapper G-Eazy. Gore died that same year at the age of 68 from lung cancer.
In 2016, You Don’t Own Me was inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame. The song was used for the #MeTooMovement, has appeared in countless TV shows and movies and was used in 2012 to Get Out The Vote for women.
One song can literally change the world.

 

happy birthday Greta Thunberg

When you were younger, I gave you a book about Greta Thunberg for your birthday to get you thinking about the environment and caring for our planet.  Amazingly, she’s 20 years old today!

What an epic life already, arguably one of the most impactful young persons in human history.

The Swedish changemaker first heard about climate change in 2011, when she was eight years old. She couldn’t understand why so little was being done.

At age of 15 she started spending her Fridays outside the Swedish Parliament calling for stronger climate change action by holding up a sign reading Skolstrejk för klimatet, or School Strike for Climate. She got others involved and organized a school climate strike  movement under the name Fridays For Future.

After Greta spoke (she speaks fluent English) at the 2018 United Nations Climate Change Conference, student strikes took place every week all around the world. She had transitioned from a passionate student unknown to a global climate change phenomena.

In 2019 (16 years old) she spoke at the UN Climate Action Summit and World Economic Forum where her passionate soundbites – like “How Dare You?” and “Our House is on Fire” went viral internationally.

She’s a controversial figure, well known for her blunt, straightforward, no bullshit style. Many governmental bodies, individuals and businesses dislike her and try to take her down because she’s hitting them square in their self-serving pocketbooks. It hasn’t worked and it won’t work. She speaks the truth, a truth we all need to hear.

Check out her Wikipedia for an inspiring (amazing) list of activism, accomplishments, impact, music (Fatboy Slim; Pearl Jam; the 1975, among others), documentary films and an epic list of awards including Time Magazine’s Person of the Year when she was 16, the youngest ever to win the highly influential recognition. She’s been nominated for several Nobel Peace Prize nominations and there’s no doubt she’ll get one someday soon.

There’s no stopping “The Greta Effect.” She’s a literal force of nature and an inspiration for us all.

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happy 17th birthday Emma!

Happy 17th birthday Emma! 

It’s been such a fun year together, including a phenomenal Billy Eilish concert in Boston, White Mountain ziplining, boulder lake jumping, Portsmouth explorations, Boston adventures, Prescott Park concerts and restaurant eating yumminess (Flatbread & LaFesta among them).

Being with you is always the best.

Ordinary moments that are actually extraordinary:

  • Seeing your pretty face
  • Experiencing your beautiful soul
  • A hug when you see me and a hug when we part company
  • Talking about the latest music news, happenings, new artists and Harry – of course!
  • Texting back & forth about random things
  • Sunday dinners & holidays at our house
  • Hearing you express personal opinions about your own world and the broader world  around you, including politics and the environment
  • Watching you grow and broaden vistas as you leave childhood behind and become a young adult

MUSIC!

This year, Grammy and I bought you a special acoustic guitar for your 17th, a beautiful “Fender Malibu” you’ve been eyeing and dreaming about.  It’s your favorite guitar. You look great together!

Emma, you’re so talented, keep believing in your ability, keep practicing and pushing yourself to learn and experiment new sound directions.  Music feeds your soul (and mine) and is the greatest life therapy.

So proud of who you are, how deeply you care about others and make my world – and everyone’s you touch – a genuinely epic place.   Love you Emma.IMG_5937 IMG_5941 IMG_5954

a mesmerizing Billie Eilish concert for the ages

The Billie Eilish event this grand dude saw with you, Emma & Haden was live concert #197 for me – (cover & local bands not included). What a night; it was one of the best of the best.

After eating at Hub Hall we tried pizza, fries and Mike’s Pastry cupcakes (meh on all three), we entered Boston Garden and made our way to the Billie merchandise tables where I bought the three of you sweatshirts, hats and socks.

You were all mesmerized, transported to a world of pure joy.  For you, seeing Billie is akin to me having seen the Beatles in their early touring years (had I actually done that).

The set designs and special touches were amazing… a giant screen with high resolution images… a ramp Billie walked up and down and into the crowd…colorful laser lights… white boxes images on which images were projected… white paper confetti “snow” released at the end.

Besides being a captivating, thoughtful, oh-so-natural performer, she’s a generational icon, a social activist leading on diversity, positive body image, climate change and mental health.

Only 20 years old!

When she “visited” her fans in a giant lift that rotated 360 degrees, Billie was eye level with us several times. I looked over and said “Billie’s looking right at you!” and was met with “I love you Billie” and “Oh-my-god” screams of pure joy.

I was blown away (boomer talk) with the whole experience. One of my favorite concerts ever in a lifetime of concerts, 

So epic being there with you. I’m the luckiest grand dude in the world.